Love

Key people

• Plato4th-century BCE Greek philosopher
• Thomas Jay OordAmerican philosopher
• Viktor Nikolaevich KarandashevRussian psychologist

Timeline

• 1868Following the Meiji Restoration of 1868, the term became associated with "love" in order to translate Western literature.
• 1970American psychologist Zick Rubin sought to define love by psychometrics in the 1970s.

Read

• Women in LoveD. H. Lawrence · 1877Book
• The Art of LovingErich Fromm · 1956Book
• The Five Love LanguagesGary D. Chapman · 1992Book
• The Viscount Who Loved MeJulia Quinn · 2000Book

Listen

• Modern LoveThe New York TimesPodcast
• This is LoveVox Media Podcast NetworkPodcast
• The Bad Girls Bible - Sex, Relationships, Dating, Love & Marriage AdviceSean JamesonPodcast
• Love LettersThe Boston GlobePodcast

Debates

• Is romantic love primarily a biological imperative or a learned social construct?One view: Love is rooted in evolutionary biology, driven by hormones and brain chemistry for pair-bonding and procreation. · Another: Love is heavily influenced by cultural narratives, societal expectations, and individual experiences that shape its expression and meaning.Open question
• Is love a choice or an emotion?One view: Love is an emotion, an involuntary feeling arising from attraction and connection. · Another: Love is a choice, requiring conscious effort, commitment, and sustained action to maintain a relationship.Open question
• Does 'true love' exist as a singular, destined connection, or can individuals experience deep love with multiple partners?One view: The concept of 'the one' suggests a unique, irreplaceable bond, often seen as fate or destiny. · Another: Psychological research indicates that love is a dynamic process, and individuals can form profound, lasting attachments with different people over time.Open question

Glossary

• Attachment theoryExplains how early relationships with caregivers shape adult relational patterns and emotional bonds.
• Passionate loveAn intense longing, arousal, and absorption in another person, often experienced early in a relationship.
• Companionate loveDeep affection, intimacy, and commitment felt for another person, often in long-term relationships.
• OxytocinA hormone linked to bonding, trust, and social connection, released during physical intimacy.
• DopamineA neurotransmitter associated with pleasure, reward, and motivation, active in early romantic love.
• LimerenceAn involuntary state of intense infatuation and obsessive longing for another person.

Careers

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Where this connects to other fields — and why it's worth knowing.

• Platform Businesses and Network Effects Business

  A dating app makes money every month you keep swiping. So if it actually found you the perfect person, you'd cancel and it would lose a customer. The app's business quietly hopes you stay single a little longer.

• Mystical Experience Religion

  Religious mystics describe merging with God using the language of lovers, and that's not a coincidence. Both falling in love and religious ecstasy seem to dissolve the wall between 'you' and everything else. The same loss of self might power both a crush and a spiritual trance.

• Kinship & Family Sociology

  Marrying for love feels obvious — but it's a pretty new idea. For most of history, marriage was a deal to join families, land, and power, love optional. Romantic love quietly took over a job that used to be about arranging alliances.

• Game Theory & Strategy Mathematics

  Lasting love is like a game you play over and over, where knowing you'll see each other tomorrow makes being kind and loyal the smart move. Marriage and kids raise the stakes on purpose, so walking out costs a lot more. They're commitment devices that make sticking together the rational choice.